Sex and the City

I went to watch it tonight. Although some may say the series was shallow, I beg to differ. Well, at least the movie wasn't. For those who haven't seen it, I encourage you to broaden your horizons and see a flick that challenges the thoughts surrounding relationships and marriage, while including the latest releases in fashion. By the end of the movie, I felt that I was watching myself on the big screen. Okay, an older, thinner, richer self, but nonetheless, I felt I was watching myself in Carrie Bradshaw.

The most amazing part of the film was the way it challenged the norm's view on marriage. I have always been semi-torn on this subject. Is marriage really necessary? Does it prove your love? Is it just a superficial vow and justification for throwing a wedding? Well, yes and no. Carrie and Big decided to get married. No fairytale proposal--I quote, "Just a business deal." After organizing a huge, hoopla wedding, the couple fails to attend (for reasons I shall omit for the sake of saving the suspense in the movie), and then end up getting married in the New York City Hall, just like Vlady and I (sans New York). Sorry for those that I just gave away the movie too. You snooze, you lose.

I battled with the idea of having a conventional "wedding." Actually, I battled with the idea of having a wedding at all. In my heart of hearts, I knew having a wedding would take away from our marriage. <-----Hello, here is the purpose and meaning of my blog. There is a huge difference between a wedding and a marriage. A wedding is an excuse to "feel like a princess," and have a day to live in a fairytale. A marriage is the truly sacred part--or SHOULD be the truly sacred, romantic part. It's the meaning. The heart. It's the REASON. Entering in a marriage is no fairytale, and hardly romantic. But, sorry, neither is a wedding. If you're shallow enough to drown yourself and your partner in the illusion that your wedding is sacred, you shouldn't be getting married. Do you need to throw a big party with fancy food and guests you don't know to prove your love to an individual? I don't think so. I now believe that marriage is sacred. I NOW figured out that people SHOULD get married (be it their own choice), but there is a huge line between getting married and getting "a wedding." If you have to have the wedding of your dreams to get hitched, you shouldn't be getting hitched. There's no marriage in a wedding.

So, congratulations to Carrie and Big, or I should say, myself and Vlady. I have no regrets, nor am I battling with having a future reception. We did it the right way.

For ourselves.